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Our Wedding

Our Wedding: The video

We received our wedding video yesterday from the talented Lukas Holoubek. It perfectly captures everything about that day- the tremendous decorating process lead by an army of family and friends, the personalized ceremony, all of the decorating details, the heartfelt toasts, the outrageously fun photobooth and of course the energetic dance party! I thought this video would be a great way to begin a series of wedding blog posts. Over the next couple of weeks, I’ll explain all of the wedding details from the stationary to the attire and much much more!

Candace and Rich from Luke Holoubek on Vimeo.


Register for this: Items from our Registry and Artwork!

Rich and I are in the process of writing all of our thank yous for our wedding. We were so fortunate many of our guests were able to celebrate with us. Most of my family lives out-of-state, so I was really touched by all of them who made the long trip to Nebraska. We received so many great wedding gifts, and I wanted to share some of them with you below. As you may have noticed, Rich and I love to cook, so we mostly registered for durable cookware to replace the items we had inherited from our parents. I’m so excited to host our first Kalasky dinner party and put some of our cool kitchen utensils and serving dishes to good use!

Ohh I wanna take ya to… Jamaica!

Rich and I decided to take an all-inclusive trip to the Caribbean rather than traveling to Europe as we originally planned. We had a great time. We didn’t have any added stress of planning transportation and accommodations around multiple European countries. Jamaica was exactly what we needed. It was the first time (in a very very long time) that I read a book for fun and watched a movie without simultaneously working on my laptop. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in work that I forget how much fun it is to do absolutely nothing.

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Jamaica by the water

We stayed in Negril because our research said it had the best beaches (and no seaweed!). Rich had never been in the ocean, so it was fun to see his reaction to the warm, clear Caribbean water and white sandy beaches. We spent plenty of time floating in the ocean and in the pool, but we also went on a few excursions and tried some of the water sports offered by the resort.

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Catamaran Cruise

I loved our catamaran cruise to the huge cliffs bordering the ocean. We got to jump and slide off the huge boat and swim into caves as bats fluttered over our heads. We also parasailed which provided the best view of Jamaica. It was like being on private hot air balloon tour. I also loved the stand-up paddle boards. I was an expert by the end of the week.

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The Push Cart

The resort provided some great food and drink options as well. I’m not a fan of rum-based drinks, so it took me a while to find my perfect drink among all the rum punches, cuba libres, and pina coladas. Towards the end of the trip, I filled up my complementary Magaritaville cocktail shaker (the only souvenir from our trip…) with delicious blackberry juice served at breakfast so Franklyn, our favorite bartender, could add it to the brut champagne offered at the resort. The juice added the right amount of sweetness for my bubbly cocktail.

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In the Hammock

By day five, I started to get amped up for the work I had waiting for me in Omaha. I know I sound absolutely crazy, but I’m working with some really fun clients that have great ideas. My mind is exploding with different designs for their weddings. I was also getting really anxious to sit down and watch a Husker game. I wasn’t able to see any of the first three games because of the wedding/honeymoon, and I need to make our traditional corn pancakes for good luck!

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Jamaica gave us time to relax and recharge. I have to cherish the memories of our time there because now that we’re saving for a house, we don’t plan on going on any long vacations in the next two years. Good thing I have a husband that makes life at home fun and adventurous every day!

If any of you are looking to travel to the Caribbean, shoot me an email and I’ll send you my recommendations!


Outfitted: My Bridal Shower in RTR

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Lindsay and Me

I’ve wanted to try Rent the Runway for a long time. My friend, Brett, had success using the designer clothing rental service, so I thought my bridal shower/bachelorette party would be the perfect event to test it out.

The RTR website has a great interface and filter system, and you can even tag your favorite dresses. Once you find a dress that is available on your event date, you can select a backup size for free. Rental costs range from $40 – $200+. The RTR team even calls first-time renters to ask if they have questions.

My dress arrived on time in a black garment bag. Like a netflix rental, the dress came with a pre-paid envelope for easing returning. I chose the Tibi High Tea Dress for it’s soft colors and feminine lace details. The dress fit perfectly. There were a few small stains on one of the sleeves, but my hair covered up most of the imperfections. I’d definitely rent again! How about you, have you ever used RTR or a service like it?

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The Bridal Shower


Our Engagement Photos

Although we had our pictures taken a lot later than most engaged couples, I think our decision to wait allowed us enough time to come up with a concept that really showcased our relationship, and we were able to find Brighten Photography which perfectly complements our style. Ben and Whitney of Brighten effortlessly work together as if they can read each others minds, and they make the entire process so much fun. (You can see us hysterically laughing in a lot of our pictures.)

As a wedding planner, I have seen a lot of creative engagement sessions. I knew I wanted a lifestyle shoot rather than posed portraits because I wanted the photos to capture how Rich and I interact. I also knew this photography style would help me overcome my camera shyness.

Brighten took our pictures as Rich and I browsed the Lincoln Farmer’s Market. We chose this location because it’s important to us to reduce our carbon footprint and cook with local and fresh ingredients as much as possible.

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Ben of Brighten chose our second location. He helped us “MacGyver” our way into an old school building. Most of the building had been refinished, but the auditorium and gym hadn’t been touched. They looked like they had been frozen in time.

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Sister Act: Two Weddings in 8 months

My sister, Lindsay, and I are twenty months apart. We were best friends as adolescents, and in high school, we wavered between cross country teammates and mortal enemies battling over Maybeline eye shadow. Once Lindsay left for college, we melded back into a symbiotic relationship based on mutual experiences and hobbies. It wasn’t surprising that we got engaged around the same time, and I have always been more than excited that our weddings are eight months apart.

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Some brides might feel that their wedding is their time to shine, and that there should be a metaphorical (or physical) spotlight on them the entire day. In my opinion, weddings are about sharing your happiness and joy with your friends and family members, so I have enjoyed getting to share this special planning experience with my sister.

As much as we’re alike, we’re also very different. Those differences have made our duel-planning more interesting and all the more fun. I have had the chance to brainstorm decor for Rich and my floral whimsy wedding while designing Andrew and Lindsay’s Parisian chic wedding. I don’t want to give away too much, but you can expect lots of mood boards and pictures in future posts!

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Even though we’ve enjoyed sharing our ideas, there are a few things to keep in mind if you and your sibling’s weddings are close together.

  • Listen to one another’s ideas – You’ll receive better feedback if you know you’re both willing to help the other person out.
  • Spend time doing activities unrelated to the weddings – Once the wedding days get close, you’ll realize that your lives will revolve around your upcoming nuptials. Enjoy each other’s company while you still have free time. You can always hire a wedding planner to help relieve stress too! 🙂
  • Figure out what works for your style, budget, and personality – Don’t compare your wedding to your sibling’s event and stick to what you love best!

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I think both Lindsay and my fiance have come to understand the importance our relationship . We have countless inside jokes and shared memories, and I want nothing more to continue to grow together and create new memories.

I love you Winny!


Wedding Woes: Writing my vows + Tips to complete them

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One of the first decisions Rich and I made as a newly engaged couple was to write our own vows, but since I have always loved the tradition and deep meaning of reciting the same promise, we decided to include traditional vows in our ceremony as well. We effortlessly picked out traditional vows that we felt spoke true to our relationship, but the personalized vows didn’t come as easy for me…

I started writing my vows early because I knew I would need a lot of time to perfect them. Writing your wedding vows is incredibly difficult. Give me a thesis topic, and I’ll organize my research and present a conclusion in a cohesive manner, but writing based on complex and life-changing emotions is not my strength. Rich, on the other hand, is a gifted writer. He makes the best holiday and birthday cards (they’re usually handmade with sharpie drawings and accompanied by a thoughtful and well-written letter).

Over the past few weeks, I got so worked up about writing my vows for fear that I wasn’t going to adequately express my gratitude and love for Rich. Every time I think of Rich, I instantly smile and I begin to wiggle and squirm with joy (picture a spaz-tastic puppy), but when I’d try to put that feeling into words, writers block would immediately set in. When it comes to love, words can be extremely limiting.

After many rough drafts, I finally feel like I’m on the right track. I compiled a list of tips that helped me, and I hope they can help you too!

  • Discuss expectations with your fiance – Will you write them together? Will you share your vows before the ceremony?
  • If you are not writing them together, decide on a structure and a maximum word count (150 words is a good place to start).
  • Get inspired by your past love letters, a meaningful song, old pictures and date souvenirs or go online and look for inspiring poetry and prose. Rich and I each have boxes filled with mementos from our relationship. I love opening them up and reliving those memories.
  • Remember to speak in your language. Don’t pick a poem or passage to recite because it sounds eloquent.

Wedding Woes: Playing to your Families' Strengths

As I’ve explained before, I was drawn to event planning at a young age. I was reading interior decorating and event planning blogs before I got engaged, and I knew that once Rich popped the question, I was going to work hard to create an event that truly expressed our relationship from the ceremony wording to the decorations. I also knew this wedding was going to take a lot of work.

I immediately called my mom when Rich proposed on March 7, 2010. She was incredibly happy for me. After she asked about the proposal details (you can read about them here), I could sense a little hesitation in her voice as she asked “Well what do we do next?”. Her concern didn’t surprise me. My mom has never been type to enjoy party planning, but after I hung up the phone with her, I began to worry that I was completely alone in planning our wedding.

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Now don’t get me wrong. I love my mom so incredibly much. She is one of the hardest working women I know, and she has instilled in me a strong sense of self-motivation and dedication that I pride myself on. I could have never taken the leap to start my own business or have the motivation to work long hours without those personality traits. It is also those traits that helped to reassure me I could plan this wedding by myself…

I spent over a year gathering visual inspiration, writing the ceremony, designing and developing our website, and crafting up a storm. My parents were very helpful attending vendor meetings when I asked, but I could still sense that my mom was uncomfortable when I talked about the visual aspects of the wedding. And to be completely honest, that bothered me a little. Aren’t all mothers suppose to be waving their hands back and forth in celebration as they help pick out table linens and color schemes? I’m only getting married once you know!

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It wasn’t until my family trip to Two Harbors, MN a couple of weeks ago that my perspective changed. I had begun to dig into the wedding day logistics (read about that here) when my mom started requesting that I set aside time to run through the timeline to tie up the loose ends with her. I could sense her genuine desire to help, and she was a great sounding board. She helped me think of things I hadn’t thought about before. When we got back from vacation, she sent me the following email:

I have to admit, I am now getting more into the planning. I wish I had just a day to spend with you to go over the details and talk them through with you. Actually, anything I can do to ease your mind and allow you to enjoy the day more, I am interested in.

It was then that I realized my mom had wanted to help me all along, but as a women focused on her career rather than home decorating and party planning, she probably felt out of her element when I talked about my plans to decorate the venue. Once I started working on the scheduling and logistics, tasks she does on a daily basis at her job, she was eager to provide her expertise. I wasted a lot of time resenting the fact that my mom isn’t a “traditional” mother enthusiastic about picking out flowers and attire.

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It’s important to assess your families’ strengths when planning your wedding. Theses strengths might not meet your initial expectations, but by delegating tasks based on your family members skills, you will help them feel included and increase their desire to help.

Explain your wedding vision to your family, and be upfront with the things you’d like help with. (Be honest! You cannot do everything yourself!) You might find that your family members have hidden talents that can save you time and money.

Once I gave them the chance, both my family and Rich’s family have been incredibly helpful with our wedding. I cannot wait to show you the outcome!